We all deal with it. When our first child is born he will be taking care of us all by himself. We don\’t have to think about who to give our attention and time to. But as time goes by, we realize that we don\’t want an only child. It is better to have two children. During pregnancy, we try to prepare our only child for the arrival of a sibling. While still pregnant, our child reassures us of how our little sibling will help and teach us. For the moment, that reassures us, but the reality is often quite different. It is time to come home from the hospital and get used to the new baby. And then comes the first jealousy of the siblings.
They demand your attention. Little kids and big kids alike. And now there\’s a problem. How do you care for both children so that neither child feels left out? This is a very important and responsible task. And in this respect, there is no room for error. Trying to compare children is not the solution. Every child is different. Every child is an original; no two children are the same or similar. Each child has his or her own personality and nature. When an older child feels that he or she is no longer getting the attention of a sibling, he or she will begin to force it. He or she then begins to act or behave inappropriately. You may not know why he throws tantrums or behaves this way. But look for the cause in the fact that you are giving your full attention to the younger child. Your most important job is to show the older child that you love him very much, even though he has a sibling; the second child will get used to having to share the parents\’ attention, and he or she will be able to see that you are not a “sibling. 21]
The oldest child needs to learn this and provide a place for the sibling to build and explore his own identity. Both children should get the greatest sense of confidence from us. In doing so, they will also gain a healthy self-esteem. Build a safe home where children feel loved and at peace. Only in such a home can children grow up well, facing reality every day. Children will grow up peacefully and become confident individuals with a formed image of themselves, their society, and the values within it. Try to develop each child\’s individual facets. Stop for at least a moment each day and spend time with your children alone. Have rituals that the children do together. Then they will find their way to each other. Don\’t spare words of love and praise. This is when your children need it most. Build a relationship between the two of you.
